From Boo to Woo

Do you ever notice those girls at the club or the bar who are just so ridiculously excited for absolutely no reason at all? Those are what you call "Woo Girls". These are the girls that get hype when their favorite song (or any song) comes on and abnoxiously yell "Wooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!". These women are completely and utterly ecstatic about life. There is nothing you could do or say to them that would ruin their good mood. They are not angry or bitter at all. They're a little bit annoying, but only if you are an outsider. If you are not a woo girl you are a boo girl. Boo girls are angry and bitter and there is nothing you could do or say to lift there mood. These girls are the ones in the background going "Booooooooooooooo" while the Woo Girls are dancing and yelling and cheering.

If you're a Woo Girl, good for you. Stay positive and keep living it up with your single gals on the ladies nights out. Enjoy while you're young and single and fabulous. But remember, the life of a Woo Girl is not meant to be forever. It's supposed to be a temporary thing. For your early college years, your twenties maybe, but definitely not forever. At some point you have to grow up and stop shouting!

Now if you're a Boo Girl, stop it. Stop being so negative all the time. You will never get out of your boo-love-is-for-losers mentality if you keep it up. Being a Boo Girl is okay every now and again. Sometimes you need to be the one on the outside looking in judging the Woo Girls and realizing that nothing in life is that dern exciting. But sometimes it's okay to be a Woo Girl and live it up for that one night only!  Stop being such a Negative Nancy and enjoy life.

To move from a Woo Girl to a Boo Girl is easy. It's called growing up. Get a reality check at some point in the future and grow up. But don't let that Woo Girl in you die completely. Sometimes it's okay to let her back out every now and again. But to make the transition from Boo to Woo is no easy task. You have to will yourself to be happy and carefree. More importantly, you have to surround yourself with Woo Girls (or others willing to attempt to wooo). You cannot and will not woo alone. (Hence why you always see Woo Girls in groups of three or more). You have to make it a mission before you leave the house that you are going to woo at some point in the night out. Set the goal and follow through.

A 'Woo girl' - a single girl who loves to go out partying and constantly shouts "woooooo!"

"She's A Woo Girl" (How I Met Your Mother)

How to Go From Boo to Woo

1. Get some liquid courage
2. Look fabulous
3. Go out with other Woo Girls
4. Step outside your comfort zone
5. If you get bored, move to a new location

Keeper vs. Creeper

Sometimes when you meet someone new, it is difficult to know if they could be "the one" or not. In high school finding out whether or not someone was "weird" or "regular" was easy - you had grown up with them and/or knew other people who knew them. But now that we're older dating people is much more difficult. There's no real way to know if someone has skeletons in their closet. Well, everyone has skeletons in their closet, but the question is are they skeletons you can live with? In life and love, how can we know when someone's a Keeper or a Creeper?

Life is too short to date someone for weeks, months, years even just to find out that they are very much a creeper and you should have left them go a long time ago. Being a creeper is not exactly the same as being incompatible. Two perfectly normal people can not be "the one" for each other and that's fine. I'm talking about when someone has some type of neurotic or unusual behavior that makes you want to run like a the girls in the horror films.

It's difficult though. Because when you first meet someone you only see the good in them. You're attracted to them. You like them. You want them to be "the one" either for now or for always. But either way, you will not notice the red flags at this point. So you go on a first date or you just "hang out" and you're getting to know each other. He or she says or does some really off the wall stuff. You give them a side-eye but you're still tryna make it work. You spend the entire date putting things in two different boxes - "I can live with that" and "I can change that". (You can't really change anything about anyone but you tell yourself that for now) But when you get home and talk it over with your friends, you have to decide if he's a keeper or a creeper.

The natural thing to do is to attempt to make everyone a keeper off the bat. You romanticize the date and remember to point out all of the good signs. But what about the bad signs? Is it fair to ignore those? What if that one kinda creepy thing he said was a window into his (or her) true character??? What if the little things you ignored actually turn out to be bigger in the future? How will we ever know?

We can try to weigh the pros and cons all day at the beginning of a new relationship, but at the end of the day I guess we'll never know if someone's a Keeper or a Creeper. I guess the best you can do is try to keep your mind open and your eyes open too. Be positive, but not naiive. Be compassionate, but also be cautious. Take time to get to know the person, but also take time to assess the situation. But most importantly, just pay attention!

How to know if he's a Keeper

1. He opens the doors for you
2. He pays for the meal
3. You share the same values
4. There's a natural ease and flow
5. He texts or calls to make sure you got home safely
6. He's nice to the waitor/waitress
7. He looks at you and really listens when you talk
8. Your friends like him
9. He makes you feel special
10. He's thoughtful

The Absence of You

The Absence of You

I have nothing to distract me from the absence of you

My distractions are all gone and you’ve left too

I think of you night and day

You seem to haunt me that way

And there’s nothing to distract me from the absence of you

There’s nothing to distract me from the absence of you

You’ve crept into my brain and you’ve stayed there too

Your body’s been gone but the memories linger on

And there’s nothing to distract me from the absence of you

There’s nothing to distract me from the pain of you

I wish I could hurt you so you’d feel it too

One heart bleeds while the other heart leaves

And there’s nothing to distract me from the pain of you.