When a relationship ends it can end pretty ugly leaving tears flowing on either side. The question is always who is to blame? You have to blame someone right? If it all comes crashing down on you like an avalanche, the relationship must have ended because someone at some point did something so terribly wrong.
Most females pick one of the two responses - Men suck or it's all my fault.
I hate to see us go down the it's-all-my-fault road, because that only sends you into a spiraling lane of misery and self-destruction. After a break-up, the last thing you need is to pick apart every single thing you did wrong and what you could have done to make it work. The truth is, there's probably nothing you could have done to make it work. If someone wants to be with you, I mean really wants to be with you, they will! Flaws and all. You can work through most of the little things, so any little thing you said or did would not have changed the outcome of the situation. It is important to know that it IS NOT your fault. (And even if it is, blaming yourself WILL NOT help or change the situation).
So get off the couch, stop eating that gallon of ice cream and go for my personal favorite approach. Men suck!
It's all their fault, and until they realize the error of their ways, you are much better off without them! So often, men break up with girls and make up reasons why it wasn't working that make it seem like it's all your fault, but it's not. The reality of the situation is that they are the one with the problems and issues that they need to work out. You are perfectly fine just the way you are, and they are just not ready. They don't know how to handle being with someone like you. And even though it's gonna hurt, and he's gonna blame you, you have got to just get out your one good cry, and then keep it movin!
You have to take some time to step outside of the situation and see it for what it's worth. This may seem like the worst thing that could possibly happen to you at this point in your life, but in all actuality, this may be the biggest favor somebody could do to you. When people show you who they are, believe them.
PS - PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not spend your days wondering about "the other woman" and how you don't measure up to her. Believe me, the grass is always brown on the other side!
haha i love your last comment the grass is always brown on the other side! I think it is crazy the way thing go down with relationships. I know too many girls who spend nights crying and letting their self esteem go down because some guy broke up with them, clearly that guy was not worth her time! can't wait to read next weeks post!!!
ReplyDeleteMost definitely. As a friend it hurts me to see my girl crying over someone who can't see her true value. Blaming yourself is usually not the answer... especially if he's a jerk! :)
ReplyDeleteI think that females who chose either 'men suck' or 'its all my fault' are just immature and maybe shouldn't be in a legitimate relationship. It's a sign of maturity to talk things out, and realize that if something ends, it was probably for the better. After all, if a guy doesn't like you anymore, or likes making you upset, why would you want him in your life anyway?
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