Who can You trust online? - The Craigslist Killer

This movie is so disturbing and it really makes you wonder about people nowadays. Who can you trust? Has our online world given us the ability to buy and sell everything - sex included?

Lifetime recently premiered a movie entitled The Craigslist Killer that is based on a true story.

The man in this movie is online searching for women to prey on all while his fiance is trying on dresses and planning their wedding. Does that scare anyone else but me? "If we can't go to medical school together then I'll just wait." This girl gave up her hopes and dreams for a jerk who was online shopping for girls to torture and kill. He even hid his gun in one of his medical books. Ridiculous!

How to Protect Yourself

1. Beef up Your security
2. Use a security token
3. Be careful what you download
4. Use your own computer if you can
5. Don't respond to emails requesting personal information
6. Be smart about your password
7. Use extra cautions with wireless connections
8. Log out completely

On Twitter

NashllyEstefani‎ Watching The Craigslist Killer. --creeeepy. How is anyone ever supposed to want to date anyone ever again in their lifeeee.You psychopaths
homegrowndog‎ I'm watching The Craigslist Killer movie on Lifetime.. If the scenes in this are acurate..Uhh there where many signs this guy was dangerous!
JemaeJemaeJem‎ watched a bit of that craigslist killer movie before heading out. I won't be speaking to any normal looking creeps tonight.

Money Matters Monday: Women & Personal Finance

Personal finance is a difficult topic and it's something that most people don't like to talk about. There is no class that really teaches you how to manage your money and most people don't really talk to their parents about finances. But managing money is most difficult for women. But make sure you stay on top of your finances to counter the statistics that make managing money difficult for women.

Did you know....?

• Over 90% of all women will take sole responsibility for their financial decisions at some point in their lives
• 47% of first marriages and 49% of second marriages end in divorce
• 75% of women do not know how much they need to save for retirement
• Only 28%  of women 65 and older received pension benefits, versus 45% of men, and the median amount of men's pension income was twice that of women
• More single women ages 21-34 (53%) said they were living from paycheck to paycheck than did single young men (42%)

If you start saving and investing now you can learn how to manage your own money. Too often we as women go from our parent's house to our husband's house and never learn to live on our own. You've got to take control of your destiny and your finances on your own! With the resources and tools available you can make excellent financial choices that will prepare you for a better, more comfortable life ahead. Knowing how to manage your funds could also make you more attractive to your future mate! Research shows that men actually like a "cheap date" because they can appreciate frugality in a woman. So take time to budget, set financial goals, and plan for marriage, kids, retirement, and any other major life decisions. Waiting for things to happen will only cost you more in the long run. Remember, those who fail to plan plan to fail.

Books to Consider

• Women & Money by Suze Orman
• Personal Finance: Turning Money Into Wealth by Arthur J. Keown
• Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Money Matters Monday - The Secret Stash!

For this week's Money Matters Monday I want to uncover one of the biggest delimmas in a new marriage - Should a married couple have a joint account, separate accounts, or both?

**Warning I am not married and am therefore not attempting to give marital advice. If you are seeking marital advice I suggest you seek a liscensed professional. I am simply a single woman speaking from my own prosepective.

When two become one it seems like both lives should just merge perfectly together... but it doesn't quite work that way. It's actually very difficult to merge two individuals even if they're in love. When you're young and dumb you think love can conquer all and solve anything! But when you wake up and the real world smacks you in the face you realize that joining two lives is not as simple as jumping over a broom. You wind up with two couches, two blenders, two t.v.s and two bank accounts. And you'll probably end up fighting over whose is better and whether to keep both or pick one. But when it comes to finances should we merge our money? There are three different approaches you can take to marriage and money. You can either get a joint account, maintain your seperate accounts, or keep a secret stash!

Ideally speaking, once you put those rings on, there should be no more I and everything should become we. Having seperate accounts suggests that you are still individuals and not in the marriage together. If you're going to share your life together, you should be able to share a bank account and manage your funds together. Besides, when you get married you have joint expenses (like rent and stuff for the kids) so you might as well have a joint account.

Though I am always a fan of joint accounts, it makes me a little nervous to say throw it all in the pot. When you hear those stories about romances gone wrong and women being thrown out on the street without a dime to their name.... kinda makes you think twice! Even though marriage is supposed to be "happily ever after" in the back of your mind sometimes you have to think about the what ifs. What if he goes crazy and leaves me after I've invested all my time, money, and child-bearing hips? What if she changes after we get married? What if this just doesn't work out??? I hate to plan for the divorce while planning for the wedding, but if you keep your money seperate from the beginning it does make things easier if you do have to plan for the what ifs. But if you decide to both have seperate accounts at least it keeps things fair.

The third choice is not one that I recommend for a healthy marriage! But I had to mention it. ;) You could always have a joint account with your spouse and have your own secret stash somewhere that they don't know about. Money is a touchy subject though and is often at the root of most divorces so do not opt for this choice! Having your own secret stash could be handy when you want something that doesn't necessarily fit into the "household budget", but just remember that secrets always come out. What's done in the dark will come to the light. When your spouse wonders where you got the money for that new flat screen tv or those new Louboutins you'll have some explaining to do!

Financial guru Suze Orman suggests that new couples keep everything seperate until they clear up the debt they brought into the relationship. New couples often have school loans, credit card debt, and many more financial woes especially after spending thousands on a wedding. Take some time to put a dent in your individual debt and then once you become what Orman calls "more financially intimate" with each other, then maybe you can put all your gold in one pot. (Financially intimate = get to know how they manage money, their spending habits, etc.)

Whatever you decide, the important thing to do is communicate. You've got to be on one accord and talk about what works best for the two of you because every couple is different. In the end you may find that a Yours, Mine & Ours approach may work. That way you use the joint account for joint expenses like rent or lunch money for the kids and allot a certain amount to go towards your seperate accounts for personal splurges like haircuts and nail appointments. Just find a financial plan that works and try not to fight about it!

For help managing your funds (joint or seperate) check out Mint, the free way to manage all of your financial accounts!

Going the Distance - Movie Review

My sister and I recently picked up Going The Distance with Drew Barrymore and Justin Long as our Redbox chick flick of choice. Drew Barrymore comes from a family of movie stars and was a child star turned adult actess, but is most famous for her roles in E.T., Never Been Kissed, and Ever After. Justin Long is known as the jerk who eventually falls in love in the movie He's Just Not That Into You, but also starred in Alivin and the Chipmunks and The Break Up.

According to the Internet Movie Database (IMDb), this movie is "a romantic comedy centered on a guy and a gal who try to keep their love alive as they shuttle back and forth between New York and San Francisco to see one another".  This movie begins with a random hook up between two adult strangers, but when Drew Barrymore's character reveals that she is only in town for short time, the two decide to leave it at that. Of course that is always easier said than done. They start off atempting to keep it casual, but eventually begin dating and attempt to "go the distance". The two did as we all do when starting a long distance relationship - 'I'll be here and you'll be there and we'll make it work'. They texted, talked on the phone, video-chatted, and made those cross-country flights to see each other in attempts to 'make it work'.

This movie takes you through the emotional rollercoaster that is the long-distance relationship as you hope for things to work out but secretly know they won't. The movie finally gets to a point where the relationship ends like most long distance relationships - with tears and sad goodbyes. They both knew they had something great, but couldn't continue on. Of course it was a movie so they end up together... lol

And now enough description, on to the review! The movie was very crazy. I initially was confused as to why it was rated R. But soon and very soon I discovered the graphic nature of the movie. I wasn't expecting them to show as much as they did and to drop as many F-bombs as they did, but that did warrant the R-rating. But aside from the craziness and random debauchary, Going The Distance was a pretty good movie. It had its funny moments and had its romantic moments so overall it was a good romantic comedy. I like Drew Berrymore and Justin Long and Christina Applegate (who plays Barrymore's sister). And the real-life romance between the two helps as the chemistry shines through on both parts. So the next time you need a movie for a buck per day, just check out Going The Distance, but be sure there are no kids around!




"Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great."
-Roger de Bussy-Rabutin
 
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