Girls mature faster then boys.
That's what we all hear as little girls as an explanation for why it is that boys are still so playful and immature when we have become more sophisticated and mature.
But does that rule still apply when we become adults? As men and women do we still have to wait a few years for him to catch up? Are we stuck rolling our eyes as he plays video games all day and all night instead of working?
This question came up in a relationship open forum I went to recently and it was a big debate between the guys and the girls. The guys were too offended at the question to even acknowledge it. For some strange reason they thought it was absurd that they could even be considered immature. And the girls just decided that they shouldn't have to wait because that was too unfair.
The truth of the matter is, we don't have a choice. If you are with someone that you truly care about and you know that he is "The One" for you and only you, but he is not "ready", then you have to wait. The only other option is to leave him and move on.
One of my favorite blogs talks about how difficult it is for men to make the decision to settle down. According to him, they have to answer two questions: 1) Is she really that special woman? 2) Am I ready for that special woman?
I love this blog because when you think of it from a man's perspective it all makes sense! It is important to be sure beyond measure that she is the one before you invest all of your time, money, and energy into her. And once you figure out that she is the one, it's most important to know if you are actually ready to handle everything that comes with the responsibility and full commitment of a monogamous relationship.
Here's what he said about settling down...
The question is, "Is he worth sticking around for???" You have to ask yourself that in order to determine if you are making the right decision.
If he is worth it then there is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting until he's ready. Don't allow yourself to be strung along! I am by no means saying that. But... remember that anything worth having, is worth waiting for.
I completely agree with this blog. It is almost unfair that a woman has to wait for the man to "grow up." Yet, it is better that they wait until the guy is really ready, then pressure him in to get married; because who wants to have to pressure someone to do spend the rest of their life with you? So from that prospective, I do see how it may be difficult for guys. I'm sure they feel stressed that they aren't making the girl happy if they aren't proposing, but they have to be ready. Good post!
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